4 TROUBLING BEHAVIORS THAT MARRIED COUPLES SHOULD NEVER SWEEP UNDER THE RUG
Marriage is arguably the most important commitment a person can make in their lifetime. Not only does it bind a couple together as partners, it requires each spouse in a marriage to adapt to both predictable and unpredictable circumstances in the long-term. Marriage is often romanticized as a magical union between two individuals. People innocently expect to live happily ever after simply because they’ve managed to profess undying love in an extravagant ceremony. After the confetti settles however, marriage ultimately reveals itself for the colossal mission that it truly is. In the big picture, marriage is a merging of two distinct lives. It’s a decision not just to live with someone, but to grow with them. To evolve with them. It’s a decision to become so entwined with a partner that you can even share the tremendous privilege of raising children as a family unit of your own. Marriage is for real, and it’s forever.
In spite of all the good intentions that people walk into marriage with, several couples continue to suffer the heartbreaking fate of separation and divorce. Life’s challenges have a tragic way of creating division in relationships. In turn, the more divided couples are by conflict and betrayal, the more difficult it is for them to grow and share in life. The bad news is that marriage is tough. The good news however, is that so are you. If you can train yourself to recognize early signs of discord in your marriage, you stand a chance at preventing your relationship from unravelling. Here are four important traps to avoid in order to keep a marital bond alive and strong:
Marriage cannot possibly work without cooperation, and cooperation demands team spirit. One of the most important ways to keep partnership alive in a marriage is to be considerate and inclusive. Always bear in mind the impact of your decisions, however small, on the strength of your relationship.
Jealousy is more than an emotion, it’s a human instinct. Whenever it manifests in relationships, it poisons couples with suspicion and insecurity. One of your highest priorities as a spouse should be to ensure that your partner can always trust that your affection is exclusive. Don’t cheat physically, and don’t cheat emotionally.
3. Violence and Abuse:
It’s impossible to go through life without experiencing conflict and disagreement with others. Whatever the circumstance, if aggression and hostility play a role in how you resolve conflicts within your relationship, it is doomed to fail. Always be respectful and mature about the way you interact with your spouse. Never resort to violence as a way to solve problems.
When things get rough or dull, one of the easiest things to do is hide away. Sometimes it’s with social media, sometimes it’s with hobbies, sometimes it’s even with work. People come up with all kinds of excuses not to confront difficult situations. It’s important to beware of how often you prefer to ignore problems instead of facing them. If avoiding your partner becomes a reflex, you will inevitably drift too far apart from your spouse.
Marriage takes work. It can only survive if both partners are fully invested in preserving respect and dignity in every dimension of their shared experiences. Remember to love your spouse. Remember to appreciate them. But most of all, remember to be deliberate about nurturing the connection you share. Don’t just allow the winds of fate to dictate how close your marriage is. Choose every day to work together and build a strong foundation for your future. If you like what you just read from our blog, you’ll love the various informative workshops and events listed on our website and social media.